I grew up in a good household. Everybody who knows me says I am intelligent, fit, competent, and caring. Despite being so blessed, I have always had difficulties acting on my wishes, desires, and deeply rooted needs. I was afraid of what other people would say, what I would feel, and what would happen if I succeeded in getting what I wanted.

As a boy and teenager, I was extremely good at soccer. This was my only passion, my true love. My entire life revolved around this one thing and I was on my way to becoming a professional player. However, success in Soccer was so important to me, that I forgot it was just a game. I began experiencing panic and anxiety over the coming games. I gradually lost contact with the joy and the fun of soccer and eventually gave up playing.

I picked myself up and found a decent-paying job as a software developer. Although I wasn’t very fulfilled and despite my conviction that this wasn’t what I wanted to do for the rest of my life, it was an experience that, through the power of the routine, helped me begin building renewed confidence in my ability to lead a good life.

To add joy and motivation to my life, I partnered with a friend and together we started a business teaching kids how to play chess. The kids love us and we pride ourselves on bringing fun and intellectual challenges to their lives.

Through teaching chess I rediscovered my higher meaning. Helping others redesign important aspects of their lives. I witnessed firsthand how I slowly began freeing myself from crippling fear and when the opportunity to work with Doron knocked on my door, I felt that joining ClaryNext was ideal for me. It enables me to develop a host of skills and to help others at the same time.

I started to work enthusiastically, only to discover that it was the "Soccer story" again. More and more I felt that fear was again holding me back from doing things I wanted to do. This came up in my discussions with Doron a few times. He gave me some suggestions that helped for a while but my entrenched thinking and behavior patterns always “won” in the end.

At some point, I felt I didn’t want to tell myself any more excuses. I was ready for more radical and committed action and asked Doron what I could do. He told me it was right there, staring at me the whole time - our own ClaryNext Redesign an Important Aspect of Yourself. “Just do it”, Doron said. “Exactly like anybody else would”. And so I did, after all, it is a good idea to drink one’s own medicine to learn firsthand how it tastes and works…

The initial application was a breeze, I just had to write down what I wished to redesign. I wrote something vague about wanting to be more decisive and active. The detailed application form invited me to objectively review my existing behavior, my thinking patterns, and the prices I pay for them. It also helped me, via examples, to conceive the vision of how I want things to be. Filling out this form, I already began to feel I am making real progress toward “getting a hold” of the patterns I want to redesign.

Based on the filled detailed application form, I received a proposed Redesign Plan. “Act Despite Fear” was the apt name suggested in the plan for the custom activity to be built with me. I liked the plan and the name resonated well with me.

I virtually met with Doron and together we built the “Act Despite Fear” activity for me using ClaryNext. Doron helped me capture the essence I needed in the app. In my case, it was very concrete guidance. Listen to my fears, identify the underlying concerns, and shape actions that respect them.

After the first session, whenever I felt fear was stopping me, I only had to run the “Act Despite Fear” activity and follow its guidance.

This simple act reconnected me with my “wiser self” embodied in the activity and bypassed the block I previously had in such situations.

I have achieved amazing leaps: I freely and politely approach nice girls at parties and public places. Some are interested, some are only flattered and I enjoy my newly acquired self-confidence.

I left my less-satisfying job while keeping great relationships with my employer. I can now focus on doing what I love during all my working hours.

I freely tell and discuss my story, including my past traumas and difficulties in establishing my identity. I no longer feel that it is making me “look bad” and I know that even if someone chooses to see me in a bad light, this doesn’t necessarily reflect on me. My memory improved dramatically and with it my ability to see and plan for weeks, months, and years, not just for hours and days as it used to be.

If you have any questions following my story, please contact me via email - guy@clarynext.com, the form below, or, best of all, set a meeting with me.

Thanks for reading my story, Guy.